Jane is NOT “My wife”!

What gets to me almost as bad as musicians who cover the Gettys’ “In Christ Alone” but drop the verse that speaks of God’s wrath being satisfied???

My blood pressure (unjustly) rises when someone, on meeting my bride, says something like, “Oh, you’re Jack’s wife!”

Though I think (hope?) Jane is blessed to be my bride (of almost 35 years); she is not “Jack’s wife.” Your pastors’ spouse is not your pastors’ spouse.

Jane is Jane. Your our pastor’s wife is whatever-her-name-is.

Jane has an identity of her own; she does not draw her “worth” or her position from being my bride.

I trust people don’t mean anything negative when they say “oh, you’re Jack’s wife,” but that doesn’t negate the feeling I get.

Jane has unique talents, giftings, passions, skills etc that are in no way dependent on me.

Her ministry skills are far different, and draw nothing from me (except, hopefully, encouragement).

May I especially ask you to be cautious in addressing/referring to your pastor’s family?

She is not “the pastor’s wife;” they are not “the pastors’ kids;” they are individuals created in His image.

End of mini rant.

Author: Jack Hager

Jesus invaded my life shortly after my arrest at age 26. I spent the first few years of my new life incarcerated. Went to Bible school after parole; have served with Kansas City Youth For Christ, Headwaters Christian Youth (Rhinelander, Wi), Family Life Ministries (Bath, NY), and now with Midland Ministries (Saint Joseph, Mo). Married with four children, work with youth, adults, inmates. Heavily involved in Bible quizzing for four decades. Narrow minded about Jesus and the gospel; fairly open minded about most other things. Speak in churches, camps (both teen and family), civic groups, public schools, Christian schools and colleges...amazed I get to do what I get to do....favorite verse Romans 15.13 "May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing so that you, by the power of the Holy Spirit, may overflow with hope."

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